It's Your Choice
Do you make good choices or bad choices?
Do you blame others for the choices you don’t like, that you have ultimately made?
Is someone else always the reason for the things that seem to keep happening to you?
You and only you are responsible for the choices you make in life.
The power of choice is the most powerful tool you have in your life!
You can choose to live your life or you can let your life live you.
You have a choice to be honest or dishonest.
Have you ever said any of these things?
“I had to cheat on that exam, I had no time to study”, “Its just a wee white lie”, “It wont hurt anyone as long as no one finds out”, Its not really cheating”, “That shop gave me the wrong change”, “I found a purse with £20.00 in it, I kept the money and chucked the purse, they will never miss it”, “Just take it they will never know”, “who cares? They are big companies anyway they can well afford it”, “If you do it you will be one of us”.
Ever exercise and feel great then sit and watch T.V. while getting stuffed into a cake?
(We have all done that one sometimes, me included)
“The weather was bad”, or “I can’t be bothered” and everyone’s favorite, “I’ll start tomorrow”.
Excuses for cheating on a loved one.
“They will never find out”, “They don’t understand me”, its just who I am”, “he / she knew this about me when they married me”, “If he / she treated me better it would never have happened”.
Do you make good choices or bad choices?
Do you blame others for the choices you don’t like, that you have ultimately made?
Is someone else always the reason for the things that seem to keep happening to you?
You and only you are responsible for the choices you make in life.
Excuses for getting high or drunk.
“I just need this last fix and I’ll stop tomorrow”, I need to have a drink because my life is so hard”, everyone else is doing it”, “It doesn’t do you any harm”, “one won’t hurt”, “why not?”
Ever drive drunk or worse?
“I am ok to drive, I’ve had a lot to eat as well so that will absorb the alcohol”, I can drink what I want and never get drunk enough to drive”, “It will be alright this once”, “I take drugs but you can never tell”.
How about keeping your word?
“They made me say yes but I didn’t want to do it so I didn’t. It will be ok”,
“I didn’t have the heart to say no but I’ll call later and change it”, “So what?”
Ever let anyone down?
“I just don’t care”, “It doesn’t really matter”, “They know I’m busy”, “I should never have said I would do it in the first place”, “They will understand”.
How about letting you down?
“I will definitely start tomorrow”, “I cant start it now, it just the wrong time”, “I got chocolates / wine / drug as a present so I’ll just finish them first and then start my diet / A.A./ stop drugs”, “Life is to hard just now”, “At least I don’t hurt people”, “Other people do it, its just not fair”.
Ever sleep with someone you don’t even know?
“It will be ok, my friends do it all the time”, “It’s only this once”, “He /she seems really nice, it will be fine”, “I’ll never see them again so it doesn’t really count”.
What about parking in an area you know will get you a parking ticket.
“That parking warden had it in for me”, “It never used to be yellow lines there, they have no right to give out tickets”, “They should get a real job”, “ I was only a few minutes”, “They are just b*****ds”.
Do you shout at your small children?
“It never did me any harm”, “They deserved it”, “They should know better that talk to me during the game / work / phone”, “They never do what I say”, “This could save their life one day”, “One day they will thank me for that”
These are actually excuses I have heard people say about these situations.
Perhaps you have said some of them yourselves.
These are all choices you made and blamed others for.
Your choices lead to your consequences – good or bad.
Is this really how you want to live?
Why not change things.
Why not think about what you are about to do and ask yourself is this the best choice?
Is this going to make me feel good for a few moments or a long time?
Is this good for me and the people I love?
Is this going to make me feel bad afterwards?
Is it worth it?
Is this really what I want to be doing?
Is this how I would behave if someone I respected and loved could see me doing it?
What if you changed a little bit and made different choices?
Do you think the quality of your life would improve?
Would the quality of the people’s lives around you improve?
Why not give it a go for one week and see?
Let me know, I would love to hear.
Live well
As Tony Robbins says, “Live with passion”
Take care
Catherine Muir x