Have you ever had that moment, when you decided that you no longer wanted to feel despair about a situation in your life? This may be one that you have been in for a while. It may be an external, such as a love relationship.
Why can?t I speak in public?
We have a voice that is capable of speech; and when it comes to public speaking then it might cause panic. This may result in a paralysis. Why people may feel this fear can be a number of reasons. It can be because they feel that they are not good enough; what they say is of no value. Whether people are going to enjoy what they have to say. The earth will swallow them up. (Well, maybe that last point was not believable) but the point is that we have the ability to create a reality of how the world views us. At the same time we have a worldview of our own. In some instances the reality may not be a truth.
Getting comfortable can result in self-harm
People often ask when they hear of a story about a person who remained in an abusive relationship ? which can be spousal, or even an alcoholic addiction ? why did they remain there? The answer can be that they felt a low sense of self-love, or self-worth. Often they got used to feeling the pain, and did not realize how they were self-harming. But people have limits to how much they can take, how much despair they want to be feeling. This may lead them to looking at their reflection.
The Man in the Mirror
After reaching the breaking point of not being happy with where you are, then the next question is “How can I change this?” Before reaching this point, the game of honesty needs to be played. This can occur by looking at your reflection, also known as ?the man in the mirror?. The following are steps that you can take to working through the issue: “confront it, tell the truth, and let go.?
For the first two steps you may find it difficult, but it is always in the questions where you get the answers. What I refer to as quality questions. Start off with the ?pain? point that you would like to change. For example, I do not sound good in public. You can then ask, ?Please show me a way that I can feel confident about speaking in public?. The next stage will be about releasing all those negative beliefs around you feeling that you are not able to speak in public.
Take charge
When we are feeling that we have no control then this can lead to unhappiness. It's about taking charge or responsibility rather than trying to control circumstances. You cannot control the external but can work on the internal.
I would like to leave you with three sentences that may save you when feeling despair. I extracted this from an interview that I recently read on the Maria Shriver website.
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