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The Four Main Personality Types and Relationship Success

By Samantha Jayne

How does your personality affect relationships and how do you overcome self-limitations?

Relationships! Fascinating aren’t they? We all want functional happy relationships; that fulfil our needs. If we all want the same then why can relationships be so difficult sometimes?

Have you ever wondered why you just click with some people and not others?

Ever noticed that some people walk into the room and it lights up, they breeze through life being popular, liked by everyone and have so much variety and adventure in their life? They always seem to have everything going right. Yet sometimes have the most disastrous relationships?

Or what about the people who are always putting themselves second giving to others making sure everyone else is comfortable, often at the expense of their own needs. Does that mean they are walked on?

Or the person who wants to know the detail or can be quiet at first but as you get to know them you peel back the layers and find an incredible individual who simply takes time to open up and trust others.

Or the person that is driven by significance, they live by the motto, “it’s my way or the highway!” They are strong, often very successful want to go straight to the outcome, they want results yesterday! In un-resourceful states they are often get very demanding as they only see it their way.



Do any of these personality types resonate with you? As individuals we are generally made up of between 1 – 3 blends of personality types with one being your dominant.

It’s these personality types that also determine who you are most attracted to, how you behave in a relationship and who you naturally get along with.

Knowing your personality type and that of others is the key to happiness and successful relationships. I have detailed a brief breakdown of the behavioural patterns to look for the four main personality types.

See if you can pick which one best describes you or if you are a blend of a few.

Wants to Win

This person is really competitive, loves challenge. They are into the facts, fast paced and getting to the point. This person likes to be in charge of several things at once and relishes environments of power and authority. They are big picture thinkers who will delegate the details.

They don’t like to be told what to do and are not interested in other’s opinions.

They can be impatient. They are very much ‘what’ people wanting to be very clear on the end game.

Wants to Be Liked

This person is charismatic and loves being around people. They are big picture people who get bored with detail. They get excited about the possibilities for the future and what it could mean for them. They avoid confrontation and are motivated by the importance of being liked – big time!

They love being the centre of attention. They are afraid of missing out on people, things, or events.

They crave and are significantly driven by variety and connection. They have an uncanny knack of making you feel really comfortable and they are quick to get involved in heart to heart conversations.

Wants to Be Comfortable

This person craves certainty, predictability and takes their time in making decisions. They are conservative types and will stick with their relationship/hobby/career for a long time. They are extremely reliable. They are driven by security, safety and connection.

They are outstanding at taking care of others and looking after others' needs at the expense of their own. They thrive in slow paced environments that are well systemized. If their environment is not organized, they will organize it.

Wants to Be Right

This person is best known for their technical prowess. They are detail orientated. You will normally find this kind of person in a career that is highly specialized. Eg professors, CPA’s, Engineers.

Hence being The Type Who Wants To Be Right. This is not in an egotistical fashion, more so in an analytical, factual type fashion.

Their personalities tend to be standoffish and misinterpreted as cold people, however are the most loyal type of individuals. Their criteria for establishing trust is normally quite long and detailed. Once you have earned their trust, they will stick with you for life.

So there you have it, personality types.

It’s easy to see how the person who wants to be liked is driven by variety and adventure and often picks men who are emotionally unavailable, who are often bad boys and a challenge. If a woman who hasn’t fulfilled her core need of variety and adventure within herself she will seek this need to be filled elsewhere which often isn’t ideal.

Or the dominant woman who isn’t balanced correctly drives men away with her constant need for significance. She will seek a stable man who provides her with lots of certainty, only over time she will get bored.

The women who needs to be comfortable often is never having her needs meet, she is giving and giving and her man usually ends up marrying someone else and she is left wondering why!

The woman who needs to be right is often mistaken for being over analytical and tense and is often categorised by her man for lacking adventure.

There are ups and downs of all the personality types especially if you are unaware of your own. Knowing your dominant personality type and blend can really help you move forward and have the best possible relationship, firstly with yourself, then with an incredible partner.

About the author

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Samantha Jayne
Founder at Blue Label Life | Website

Samantha Jayne is a Relationship Expert, Dating Coach, Matchmaker, Author, Speaker and founder of Samantha Jayne.

Samantha is THE expert in rescuing professional singles looking for love. With Blue Label Life’s incredible 92% success rate in establishing long term relationships. She is also founder of Make Men Commit, a website for women to bring out their inner goddess within and snare the man of their dreams!

Samantha brings a fresh and honest approach to the world of dating advice, “When it comes to Love, be open, positive and expect the unexpected”.

Pick up your copy of Samantha's e-book How to Make a Man Commit: Your ultimate guide to capturing the man of your dreams AND keeping him" today.

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