Masculine and feminine energies are so important in an intimate relationship.

Consider this scenario – the wife is stonewalling the husband – basically refusing to look, acknowledge and communicate with him – and he reacts with sadness, clinginess, a constant need to assure her that he loves her and needs her. What is wrong with this picture? Scratch the surface, and you would see a pattern that has been in play for a long time, years or even a decade. Whispers abound – “But they are such a nice couple”, “He must have played up”, “Love never lasts” and so on. But here’s the deal – at some point in time, he has lost her trust. She cannot relax into her feminine energy while he is absent, whether physically or emotionally

When did women cease to be women and men cease to be men?

And I am not excluding same-sex couples here – in order to have passion in a relationship there has to be polarity. Someone wearing the pants and someone wearing the heels, even if only figuratively. If a previously feminine woman were suddenly to come across aggressively, seriously, even bullishly, I can tell you that at some point in the not too distant past she felt the need to step up and take care of business, because no-one else was. It is purely biological, just like the fight-or-flight response initiated by the adrenal glands and triggered in the limbic system of the brain – if her man is not there protecting the cave and the precious cargo inside, then she has got to do it! Obviously she would prefer not to – but the survival of the species is a very real impulse and the energy that she must invest in doing this, in addition to every other task on her schedule, is exhausting and not sustainable. At some point the camel’s back must break.

This is a classic case of gender energies reversing because the feminine partner feels she needs to step into the masculine role in the absence of masculine energy, and the masculine then finds that as the man’s role is taken he is retreating into a more feminine energy by being sad, depressed, withdrawn. However, it is the very act of his being sad that she can’t stand to be around because in that state he is useless to her – who is going to protect the home and family?

It is imperative that the masculine returns to its rightful place and the feminine is allowed to relax into her natural role – do this and watch the sparks ignite!