I love Love.
I never used to, rather, I thought it was overrated. My opinion was, ‘Why should I rely on someone else to look after me?’ or ‘Giving yourself to someone only leads to disappointment’.
Now, older and I think, wiser, I have come to some realisations and would like to share with you today;
1. You attract what you put out.
Myself, being harsh and bitchy in the past, would either have me cutting people down before they could even have a chance or attract someone who would treat me in the same manner.
Give yourself love, acceptance and happiness within yourself, your abilities and your strengths and you will attract someone with the same qualities.
How? Write down right now, what are you good at? Even the smallest things, have you been nice to someone today? Did you get paid a compliment or pay someone else one? Did you offer help to someone today? Have you learnt something today?
All of these things are positive things that can be looked upon every day to assist with self-acceptance. If you have done any of these things today, then you have made someone’s’ day, been valuable enough to someone that they want to make you feel good/help you, or be better than you were yesterday as you learnt something new today.
2. Leave your baggage behind.
I know this is a commonly said one, though I understand it more now since studying NLP. First, understand that you and everyone else are only ever doing the best you can with the tools you have at the time (and that hind sight has 20/20 vision).
Understanding this allows you to learn from your past, having hindsight allows you to know how to change that behaviour in the future and improve yourself within relationships in the future.
It is OK to assess yourself (with love) for the purpose of bettering yourself. Einstein’s definition of insanity is to repeatedly do the same thing expecting a different outcome.
So long as it is not beating oneself up, assess past behaviours, learn your lessons from them then move on and take your learnings with you.
3. Have Self-Respect
For the purpose of being able to love better, love freer and love whole heartedly. No Fear. You must respect yourself as a good person to call for respect from others.
Is there something that pops up in your head that makes you think is not respectable? Be honest with yourself, as if you continue with behaviours your do not respect, others will see them in you too.
Truly believe you are an honest, respectable person who offers love and support to those around you with the best intentions at heart (that you have the tools for at this time) and you will attract others with the same values.
Make the self-respecting decision to remove the people who do not fit into this bubble. Attract other bright eyed bubbly people too.
Looking too hard for love is like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Relax and the right love will come to you when you are open and ready for it and when you least expect it.