Often I am told by people when they come to me with an issue that:
“I’m not the problem. My problem is my husband/partner/mother/father/sister /daughter/son…. Can I organise for them to come and see you?"
I actually say to them "I have a better plan! We can change them much easier than that! And help you at the same time!"
Let me tell you how this works.
You see, energetically you have brought these people into your life for a reason.
That reason is to help you grow as a person.
We think we attract these beautiful partners into our lives and it's going to be all sun & roses the whole time.
But they are here on this earth to trigger you. They are there to challenge you. And don't they do a GREAT JOB! he he
We hear all the time "You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family."
Well in fact, you DID choose them.
Before you came into this body, and this life, you actually had a few choices of lives to choose from. And up there in that place we go to in between lives, you had a bit of an insight as to what was going to happen in each life.
As a soul, you look at these lives, and you chose the most difficult life. Or the life that is going to serve you best, for the lessons that you are meant to learn in this next life.
And when you get here, lessons are all around you, and presented to you, by these people around you.
Now that I've explained this, let me show you HOW you can "change them."
Now every relationship is different. Every trigger or situation is different. And every lesson is different.
There is no rule on how this works.
However there is a simple process.
Firstly, let's look at HOW they are triggering you. What are they doing to annoy you?
Secondly, ask yourself "How do I feel about this? And how does this affect me?"
Then you use the Universal Laws to work this out. If they "make" you feel this way, where are you making "myself" feel this way?
And that is your answer.
Then you clear this from yourself, by letting it go or giving it back to yourself.
Once this is "gone"... Guess what?
Your energy changes...
You DON’T NEED to learn the lesson anymore.
You don't NEED to be triggered anymore.
And your relationship with that person WILL CHANGE....
They WILL CHANGE...
Ok, Now, I'll give you an example of this.
Say that a gorgeous little boy is being bullied at school.
It's very sad. But let's take him from being the victim and that it’s "his fault", to empowering him and showing him how he can "change" others.
Right, so we ask him "why are they bullying you?"
He might say "They pick on me, tell me I'm stupid and that I'm hopeless at sport. They throw things at me, push me around and tease me all the time. I just want to hide..."
So I will ask "how does that make you feel?"
He might say "I feel weak, that I can't protect myself and I'm really sad. I cry every night!"
Ok.. There are a few things this tells me...
This tells me that this situation is mirroring how he feels about himself. Otherwise the bullies would not energetically be attracted to him. So deep down inside he was always feeling:
- Stupid & Helpless - this would either be there from failing a test in the past or someone telling him earlier in his childhood that he was this.
- His energy field is not strong. Things affect him greatly and deep down inside he feels weak and alone. Something has weakened his energy.
As soon as we clear his belief that he is Stupid and Helpless, strengthen his external energy field and find out why he has weakness and loneliness inside his body, and clear that, then pretty much his entire energy is completely different.
He has learned that he isn't actually stupid & hopeless, that it's not the truth.
And he feels an inner strength, and external strength.
The bullies just melt away.
Now, this REALLY happened.
The child I saw had DEEP self-esteem issues. And was being physically attacked at school.
Once we shifted this old issue energetically, the very next day, the bully not only apologised to the child, but apologised to the child’s mother as well.
And the bullying stopped INSTANTLY!
So please don't get sucked into being the victim.
Use the people who are triggering you as a tool.
A tool for you to see exactly what is hiding inside your body. And what you no longer need to hang onto.
I guarantee you, your relationship with them will change.
And you have indeed, changed that person.
Simply by changing yourself.