1. Organise it

   Yep, organisation can be sexy! Especially when you’re organising a date with your partner. Don’t always assume you’ll somehow fit in the time after work at home. Go out and enjoy each others company for a change. Date like you used to before you got married. You might want to set a few rules first though, like no talking about the kids or work. But what does that leave? Each other and that’s the point!

2. Get in the Zone

   Sure you might have a headache, feel cranky and irritable and just need to catch some sleep but if you just allow yourself to let go and enjoy the touch of your partner you’ll be wanting more! A night of passion will do wonders for your relationship.

3. Be Positive

   When you’ve been with your partner for a long time, you’ll suddenly come to realise that there are far too many negatives in yours and your partners talk. While it’s great to have someone to share your grievances with don’t let it take over. Instead, think of positive things to say to each other. Joke around.

4. Get Dressed

   Even if you’re not going anywhere special, every once in a while you should dress up just for your partner, like you used to do when you first started dating. Pick out some pretty new
   clothes, do your hair and see what happens. Your partner will always appreciate it.

5. Get Undressed

   That’s right. You’ve just spent ages getting dressed for your partner but now comes the fun part, getting undressed! Pick out some new sexy lingerie to show off to your partner and remember to get in the zone and appreciate every touch!

6. Plan Ahead

   In the beginning of a relationship, there are always many exciting new things to plan for; getting engaged, getting married, buying a house together and having kids. But what happens when you’ve done all that or at least done as much of it as the two of you want? Not a whole lot. Plan a holiday or a mini vacation away together, just for the two of you. Even just a day trip can be enough to reignite your passions.

7. Be Spontaneous

   Sure, sometimes you need to organise time with your partner but if you have a moment where you just suddenly feel like going out for dinner or to a movie, do it! There doesn’t always need to be a reason to do something, go out together just because you feel like it.

8. Appreciate

   After a while, doing the household chores, going to work and earning the family money or looking after the kids all day goes totally unnoticed. As couples we get into routines, instead of taking it as a given that your partner cooks you dinner or cleans your clothes, tell them how much it means to you. Showing a little appreciation can go a long way.

Sandra Worlsey is a freelence blogger from Australia specialising in women's sexual health and wellness. You can see her profile here.