The majority of people today do not understand just how controlled they are, and most don’t even know that they don’t know.
Instead of looking for the way to wellbeing through other people’s knowledge or other peoples understanding of wellbeing, simply trust in the fact that you already know what you need to do.
Get to the point of believing in your own feelings and allowing them to be your guide.
I am extremely fortunate to work in an industry where I get to see many women every day, and to play a role in their wellbeing. I say fortunate because by understanding them I become better at understanding myself. Though it’s still something I need to focus on daily I have learned to trust me and “my intuition” (my feelings) just that little bit more.
Trust in the fact that you are meant to be well and happy. Trust that you actually know better than anyone else what is best for you, and funnily enough it’s generally the same thing for most of us. Trust in the flow of energy that flows through and around all of us. This is no simple task in a world that has literally sped up to the point that we no longer seem to have time or energy to focus on ourselves at all.
“I’m just too busy” is the new catch phrase.
Emotions like guilt, anger, frustration (guilt is the worst) are all there to let you know when you’re not on a path to wellbeing, they; along with all the great emotions like love, happiness, and joy are there as your emotional wellbeing guidance system. The only reason you don’t heed the warnings the ‘bad feeling’ emotions give you is because of your ego. You’re told to do more, be more and achieve more, that success only comes to those who do more. This is not the road to wellbeing.
By having an understanding of how you are controlled you can start thinking and feeling differently about what wellbeing is for you. The reasons become clear when you look at the controlling factors today.
- Marketing and advertising are the biggest influence over how we feel at any given time.
- Pharmaceutical companies control how many doctors think and feel and therefore control your wellbeing too, if you go to them for advice.
- Societal values, where we learn to value what tradition dictates, and never really look at what we as a person value. This is one thing I look at the most when helping women become happier.
Becoming happier is what it’s all about, happier with yourself first… I cannot press the importance of this one thing enough!! Wellbeing exists in happiness. Think of when you were really well and you will discover very quickly it was when you were happy.
You don’t need to try and figure out where you may have gone wrong, what thoughts or events lead you to where you are now, just look for a thought that makes you even the slightest bit happier than you were. Keep doing this whenever you start feeling any bad emotion about whatever is active in you at that time and you can start on the road to well-being.
Happy equals wellbeing, it’s that simple…so let your feelings be your guide!
