< PreviousSMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE - PAGE 29Uterosexuals naturally understand that when a woman is feeling over-whelmed with anger, sadness, fear or sorrow, it is the little girl within her — the one with clouded vision — who is feeling vulnerable and aware of what she is missing. She has to go through a cathartic ‘housekeeping’ cycle of bottoming-out, before she can begin to get back up and feel fulfilled again with what she has. Uterosexuals intuitively know that while she’s down, all she really needs is an empathetic non-judgemental and loving reassuring ear to listen to her. She needs to share her feelings of what she’s going through to ‘get it off her chest’, so she can release, heal and purify her emotions. Uterosexuals instinctually know that with support, patience and understanding, their girlfriend’s darkness will be temporary, and that she will eventually spontaneously rise up from the ‘depths of her well’.- PAGE 30 - SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINESo I encourage you, as a woman, to open your heart and free any inhibitions of your own uterosexuality. Many of us belong to what the academics define as the ‘fourth wave’ of feminists — a group that I like to call the ‘uterosexuals’ — strong women who are emancipated, educated, ambitious, feminine, intuitive, articulate and immensely proud of their almighty womanliness. These are the feminine feminists, women who love being women, love being womanly and love being powerful.‘Girl Power’ is finally passé. The metrosexual’s significant other now has her own proud title! Yes the fourth wave of feminism has arrived, with uterosexual women who are exceptional, intelligent, sophisticated, influential and sexy.Welcome to this next generation!SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE - PAGE 31You do not have to sacrifice your personal happiness to be happy with your work.In fact, if you pay attention to your natural desire for love - your natural sense of friendship, your family, and your willingness to support others - you will also begin to provide the kind of leadership that can transform your life and the way business works in society.IT’S NOT LOGICALIf you look around, it is obvious that the predominantly masculine models of leadership fail to recognise your natural attributes and build the kind society you may want to live in: something supportive if you like -something more heart-based - something that may feel more attractive to you.HOW TO LEAD YOURSELFAND BE HAPPYby Joseph PritchardSMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE - PAGE 33Gay Coley was the managing director of Eden Project in Cornwall, UK. Her background was finance in The City of London. Gay had trained as an accountant. Her work world had historically been coloured marble grey.With Eden Project, Gay had been successful in a different way:‘We had built Eden. I’d raised over £100 million for the project and there was this huge plethora of ideas …’ said Gay.But, her personal history had proved to be challenging.‘… Big challenges, big opportunities at work, but really big challenges in my private life … my marriage had failed … five miscarriages … and whilst I got this fantastic sense of reward from my working life, I knew that wasn’t enough’.- PAGE 34 - SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINEHer entry point with me was a five-day open programme called Personal Strategy™. ‘I knew that for me, I had to get a better synergy in what I was looking for, what I wanted to feel at the end of my working life, to make sure I’d lived a full life’, she says.So we worked together on Gay’s personal and corporate strategy issues over the next seven or so years.This work does involve some risk because as individuals we face some tough decisions to get the life we want.Gay continues …‘This isn’t about someone who wants a safe reassuring process …to go there-there you’re doing all the right things ...’But, it is about trust - and that trust extends from me to you and then within yourself.‘… It was obvious that what Joe was doing wasn’t mainstream ... it’s about somebody who wakes up in the middle of the night thinking this doesn’t quite feel right ... it’s about people who really want and quest for the most out of life ... ‘ says Gay.“IT DOES REQUIRE SOME APPETITE...SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE - PAGE 35It is enormously difficult to get a sense of direction from the intellectual faculty alone.Strategy projects - personal or corporate – start with you and your feeling sense of purpose because that sensory lens crystalizes your decisions, direction and relationships.Your personal strategy feeds everything else in your life and you source this intelligence from your feelings.As you know, you have genuine capacity in this area. Even neuroscience confirms that your feelings reach the brain significantly faster than your thoughts.In fact, you could almost say that thought leadership is old technology.Rather than asking you to be logical, validate your feeling and intuitive faculties as they are faster, rounder and likely to be more accurate because they come from your body.- PAGE 36 - SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE You already have something that works.REASON FOLLOWS INTUITIONYes, we all have to evaluate and reason. But remember - thought follows feeling and reason follows intuition – the natural order that your body works towards.The personal benefits are obvious but it helps when someone else says it.‘I’ve got something enormous out of doing Personal Strategy. I think the Eden Project, in its process of growing up and engaging with that big agenda, has also got something already really valuable out of that pro-cess,’ says Gay. Remember, although these skills do not get as much recognition as some others, you already have the inside track on something unique.You already have something that you can use to lead yourself and deliv-er your own happiness. All you need to do is feel it … and trust it … and the rest of us will catch up.SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE - PAGE 37- PAGE 38 - SMART HEALTHY WOMEN MAGAZINE7 STRENGTHS OF WOMENby Jay AndersonWomen are generally known as being happy to socialise, share feelings and keep in touch with others. Perhaps it’s a stereotype or a generalisation, but have a think about the families you know. Who does the organising of get-togethers? Who catches up with their friends the most? He or she…..? Sure, some women are shy or not-so social and some women keep their feelings to themselves. However, overall, women are well known as able to chat, socialise and as the family organisers.Next >