Page 11 - SHW Magazine Issue 37
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Fhp your
perspective.
Research into eouples has shovtn that when unhappy couples are asked about their
partner’s character traits. they assign a whole load ol‘ negatixe traits to their partner
while assigning a whole lot ol' positive ones to themsely es but when they are happy,
the partner gets positiye traits too. This shows that this tendency is not so much
about stable eharaeter traits as it is about our perspeeti\e in the moment and it does
not help us in resolxing issues in relationships.
So next time you are thinking of your partner"s negative traits. try this little
exereise fur shitting up your perspeetiy e: think til‘ the trait you have assigned to
your partner. [or example, selliishness. Nnw think ol‘ an example til‘ your partner
haying been the apposite oliselliish. Next. think ota time you have been selliish. and
then a time you have been the opposite of selfish andjust notiee how it feels before
diving hack into the interaction.
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