When you hear about self-love, you may have come across the expression “You have to love yourself”. This may be strange at first, as we sometimes come across beliefs that are frowned upon because they focus on just you. But how can someone love you fully if you do not love yourself?
Love loves love.
Therefore love is attracted to love. One big ‘secret’ potion to finding love – sssh – when you feel connected to love at your core, so much so that you are comfortable with it and do not feel the need to go searching elsewhere for it, you get more love coming to you. So how do you connect to your love core?
5 tips to connecting
- 1. Spend time with yourself. Do something that you enjoy doing? This may be an interest like taking pictures. In this example you can spend half a day venturing a city of your choice, catching pictures and moments. Enjoy the world around you.
- 2. Look at what is around you. Sometimes, you may not notice the wonders around you as you may have been distracted previously with your relationship. Try to find beauty. Be in a space and think about the positives, this can be looking at architecture.
- 3. Give yourself time. Assign a day a week, where you will pamper yourself. This may be putting on a facemask to going shopping for sexy lingerie.
- 4. Make a list. List 6 things that are great about you. Out of the 6, write down 3 that people may not say about you. You have some great qualities that you may have forgotten.
- 5. Go back in time. Imagine a time when you were much younger, and think about 10 things that you may have wanted to do. Out of 10, choose 4 that you would like to do. This may be learning a new language or instrument. Pick one and go and do it. For example, you may want to become fluent in French as you studied that at school and found the culture interesting. Why not join a French conversational meetup or iitalki (www.italki.com). When you do this, you not only be learning a new language but discovering new things about yourself.
- 6. Be open to exploring new sides of you. This can be by going to meetups, meeting new people.
- 7. Have a date night per week. This a day when you do something like go out to dinner on your own or even going to cinema.
- 8. Enjoy a new found inner confidence. You will find from doing these steps that you will get to know yourself, enjoy your company and find feel an increased confidence.
- 9. Get confident. Potential love matches love confidence.
- 10. Stay true. Don’t forget to always connect to your inner love, as this is your compass and your core.