Love thyself first.
Self love is where love starts it is at the core of your experience of yourself, life and especially love relationships. It gives you the ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself.
When you experience yourself as loved and appreciated for who you are, then you realize that you ARE love. From that perspective, loving yourself is no longer an issue. From the human perspective, every relationship you ever have with someone else exactly mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself. So many women today do not love themselves because they judge what they should look like and act like via a very false concept presented daily via media and advertising that are focused on getting products sold, not on the effect it has on the majority of women.
So the effects of not loving yourself first are very debilitating in relationships with anyone else. At the very least, you’re plagued by indecision and self doubt. In more intense cases there is depression and self hatred, which cripples you in every area of your life. The self-focused negativity cuts you off from your connection to any new ideas about love.
The victim mentality is an acquired learned personality trait in which a person tends to regard themself as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to think, speak and act as if that were the case – even in the absence of clear evidence. It all depends on habitual thought processes.
Playing the victim in life has become the norm for so many people, the majority don’t even realise they are doing it. They play out their lives like a scene in a daytime soap opera, where all the characters have great emotional and family problems they have to overcome. The big thing is they always seem to have someone else to blame for all the drama in their own lives. Victims often go from one bad love relationship to another. Curiously, though, they will often go to great lengths to maintain relationships with the same type of people that tend to hold them in the patterns that cause the victimisation, and to do the exact same behaviours that lead to becoming a victim, yet again.
Until you know how to love yourself there will be an inner war going on that divides your energy and sabotages your efforts to move toward love in all relationships. Besides that, if you lack your own love you attract people and circumstances that mirror your negative beliefs and feelings about yourself. By the Law of Attraction it couldn’t be any other way. We draw to us the manifestations of what we FEEL. So, in order for you to draw in loving people and circumstances, you need to know how to love yourself first.
Your Self-Dialogue Is the Key, most of us would be shocked if we could hear a tape recording of our inner dialogue. We would see just how many times a day we judge or criticize ourselves harshly. Sometimes we treat ourselves far worse than we could imagine treating someone else. To start building self love, listen to how you talk to yourself, and start making adjustments as soon as you realise what you’re doing. Underlying negative self talk can be long-held beliefs about you that aren’t even based on reality. So be gentle with yourself and start paying attention to any negative patters and overcome them with thoughts of self love.
You can literally transform your life, I did!